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"Why Society Still Needs Feminism Because to men, a key is a device to open something. For women,..."

Thu, 16 May 2013 23:50:50 -0500

“

Why Society Still Needs Feminism

Because to men, a key is a device to open something. For women, it’s a weapon we hold between our fingers when we’re walking alone at night.

Because the biggest insult for a guy is to be called a “pussy,” a “little bitch” or a “girl.” From here on out, being called a “pussy” is an effing badge of honor.

Because last month, my politics professor asked the class if women should have equal representation in the Supreme Court, and only three out of 42 people raised their hands.

Because rape jokes are still a thing.

Because despite being equally broke college kids, guys are still expected to pay for dates, drinks and flowers.

Because as a legit student group, Campus Fellowship does not allow women to lead anything involving men. Look, I know Eve was dumb about the whole apple and snake thing, but I think we can agree having a vagina does not directly impact your ability to lead a
college organization.

Because it’s assumed that if you are nice to a girl, she owes you sex — therefore, if she turns you down, she’s a bitch who’s put you in the “friend zone.” Sorry, bro, women are not machines you put kindness coins into until sex falls out.

Because only 29 percent of American women identify as feminist, and in the words of author Caitlin Moran, “What part of ‘liberation for women’ is not for you? Is it freedom to vote? The right not to be owned by the man you marry? The campaign for equal pay? Did all that good shit get on your nerves? Or were you just drunk at the time
of the survey?”

Because when people hear the term feminist, they honestly think of women burning bras. Dude, have you ever bought a bra? No one would burn them because they’re freaking
expensive.

Because Rush Limbaugh.

Because we now have a record number of women in the Senate … which is a measly 20 out of 100. Congrats, USA, we’ve gone up to 78th place for women’s political representation, still below China, Rwanda and Iraq.

Because recently I had a discussion with a couple of well-meaning Drake University guys, and they literally could not fathom how catcalling a woman walking down University Avenue is creepy and sexist.
Could. Not. Fathom.

Because on average, the tenured male professors at Drake make more than the tenured female professors.

Because more people on campus complain about chalked statistics regarding sexual assault than complain about the existence of sexual assault. Priorities? Have them.

Because 138 House Republicans voted against the Violence Against Women Act. All 138 felt it shouldn’t provide support for Native women, LGBT people or immigrant women. I’m kind of confused by this, because I thought LGBT people and women of color were also human beings.
Weird, right?

Because a girl was roofied last semester at a local campus bar, and I heard someone say they think she should have been more careful. Being drugged is her fault, not the fault of the person who put drugs in her drink?

Because Chris Brown beat Rihanna so badly she was hospitalized, yet he still has fans and bestselling songs and a tattoo of an abused woman on his neck.

Because out of 7 billion people on the planet, more than 1 billion women will be raped or beaten in their lifetimes. Women and girls have their clitorises cut out, acid thrown on them and broken bottles shoved up them as an act of war. Every second of every day. Every corner of the Earth.

Because the other day, another friend of mine told me she was raped, and I can no longer count on both my hands the number of friends who have told me they’ve been sexually assaulted. Words can’t express how scared I am that I’m getting used to this.

Because a brief survey of reality will tell you that we do not live in a world that values all people equally and that sucks in real, very scary ways. Because you know we live in a sexist world when an awesome thing with the name “feminism” has a weird connotation. Because if I have kids someday, I want my son to be able to have emotions and play dress up, and I want my daughter to climb trees and care more about what’s in her head than what’s on it. Because I don’t want her to carry keys between her fingers at night to
protect herself.

Because feminism is for everybody, and this is your official invitation.

”

- Caitlin O’Donnell, Drake University. (via on-another-note)

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Wed, 15 May 2013 21:41:01 -0500

anusking: hot things to say during sex: Abraham Lincoln meme harder mitochondria let’s watch...

Tue, 14 May 2013 23:36:35 -0500

anusking:

hot things to say during sex:

Abraham Lincoln

meme harder

mitochondria

let’s watch icarly

why didn’t you reblog that post I made

WARMACHINEROX

I’m at 4/6

"In other words, Joel Stein, maybe millennials (and your other readers) are not all narcissistic..."

Sun, 12 May 2013 19:02:01 -0500

“In other words, Joel Stein, maybe millennials (and your other readers) are not all narcissistic attention hogs prepared to make tiresome generalizations about 16 million people we’ve never met. Maybe it’s just you.”

- Why Time’s Millennials Cover Story Says More About Joel Stein Than It Does About Millennials (via azspot)

aseaofquotes: Roberto Bolaño, The Savage Detectives

Sat, 11 May 2013 14:09:11 -0500

aseaofquotes:

Roberto Bolaño, The Savage Detectives

kateordie: infinitenap: HUNK Dreamboat!

Sat, 11 May 2013 13:46:37 -0500

kateordie:

infinitenap:

HUNK

Dreamboat!

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Sat, 11 May 2013 10:58:06 -0500

waitingandwasting: rapewhistled: jensensations: Ryan Gosling...

Fri, 10 May 2013 11:26:19 -0500

waitingandwasting:

rapewhistled:

jensensations:

Ryan Gosling won’t eat his cereal (x)

this is fucked up

This is the best thing on the internet.

amazing

yumeninja: exactly.

Fri, 10 May 2013 00:50:24 -0500

yumeninja:

exactly.

"I had love once in the palm of my hand. See the lines there."

Fri, 10 May 2013 00:49:51 -0500

“I had love once in the palm of my hand.
See the lines there.”

- John Wieners, from “A Poem for Painters” (thanks, deskofalex)

aseaofquotes: Truman Capote, Breakfast at Tiffany’s

Tue, 07 May 2013 23:24:16 -0500

aseaofquotes:

Truman Capote, Breakfast at Tiffany’s

thehystericalsociety: Boogeymen - part of a series of eerie...

Tue, 07 May 2013 09:33:23 -0500

thehystericalsociety:

Boogeymen - part of a series of eerie stereoviews - dated 1923 (Via)

"Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s..."

Mon, 06 May 2013 18:35:54 -0500

“Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.

Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.

That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?

The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.”

- Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason (via albinwonderland)

Got into a fight with a guy once because they were making a big deal about how women should dress modestly and this is exactly the argument I was trying to make. Kudos, saving.